Setting Boundaries

I cannot stress enough on the importance of setting up boundaries.

Setting boundaries is a positive and healthy necessity in one's life which will empower and raise confidence in oneself. We need to be able to define those boundaries and protect them aggressively. It does not make you rude or selfish to care about yourself. It is high time we prioritize self care. Enough with giving till you're empty. Fill your own vessels before pouring.

"Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do."

To be able to set boundaries, we need to know ourselves. To truly know who you are, and not the person you have been made by societal expectations, or the person you ought to be. It takes immense courage to discover your true self unmarred by expectations.

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others. We need to differentiate between being considerate and being unfair to ourselves. We cannot base our lives around the expectations of others. We need to realize that setting boundaries is also about setting a standard about how others will treat you. The way you treat yourself sets a precedent for the way you will be treated.

Treat yourself with care. Love yourself exactly as you are. Take time off , if need be, to get your bearings right. Know what you want and give yourself permission to ask for it. It is essential to take responsibility for your needs and wants. Find ways to fulfill it yourself. Do not be afraid to say "No" when it needs to be said.You are not responsible for others feelings and happiness. But you are for yours. Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.

Boundaries are not about trying to control someone or make them change. They are about establishing how you want to be treated, self-preservation in a chaotic environment and a path to healthy relationships.

"Healthy boundaries are not walls. They are the gates and fences that allow you to enjoy the beauty of your own garden" 

Setting boundaries can help you to :

• Take care of your needs.
• To have more freedom to focus on what is important to you.
• Protect your physical and emotional space.
• Be creative.
• Have peace of mind.
• Teach people how to treat you.